A thought…
February 13, 2013
Here is a thought: What would you do if he called you out of the blue, one day, and said he wanted to give it another try?
I’ve been wanting that exact thing to happen for so long that I don’t know what my answer would be. Would I seriously consider it? Yes, as much as most of you would tell me not to. I would consider it, but I would have to see some serious changes in him. I wouldn’t go running, blindly to him, but I would want to hear him out. See what he might have to say. See what his reasons would be. But I would consider it. Because I would want to know why.
Of course, I don’t see this happening. He hasn’t done anything to make me think otherwise. But it was just a thought…
Simple Heart Girl
February 13, 2013 at 3:43 AM
If someone breaks up with you, then wants you back again, that simply means that he is still searching for something better, and, you’re merely a spare wheel to him, his booty call, and, you can be sure, that if another woman came along that caught HIS eyes, he’ll leave you in a jiffy, so, don’t get back with the person, and, it’s for your own good too, because once you’d become his second choice, then, you’re STUCK as other people’s second choice too, and, nobody wants to “come in second” in love.
February 13, 2013 at 5:14 AM
That’s why it was merely a thought. Besides, it’s hard to be someone’s booty call when they don’t even live in the same country as you.
February 13, 2013 at 12:38 PM
Sex is cheap (usually costs a dinner or a drink) and easy to get, I am sure he can get plenty in Europe. I suspect he’s been using you as an “emotional booty call” and “ego stroke” whenever he needs one. These aren’t as easy to get as sex for a man, but most men need them, especially insecure ones that are scared of being alone. Being in a different country is an advantage to him, he doesn’t even have to buy you a drink. It’s easy, free and always available. Whenever he gets dumped or rejected by a woman or just feeling down, he can just skype with you or email you to get some ego stroke and confidence boosts. And I think you know it….
Also here is a thought, when he runs back to you one day, in addition to big changes in him, you might want to consider this “big change” in YOU: change your mindset from “am I good enough for him?” to “Is he good enough for me?”
It’s time to leave the past behind, the past where your father abandoned you, and made you feel you will never be good enough for a man to stay long enough.
It’s time to really think if a particular man is good enough for you to stay.
When you learned how to say NO, and how to walk away from a man that is not good for you without regret, fear or apologies, your self-esteem is going to soar. Self-esteem = self-love + self-respect. And your dating life and life in general is going to change dramatically for the better.
Don’t let any man turn you into a scorpion–one that knows it would get killed but still can’t help herself, only that this scorpion is poking herself. You know very well holding onto G is not doing you any good, in fact it is doing you a LOT of harm. But you still let yourself continue to do it…. only YOU can stop yourself from getting hurt from him.
February 13, 2013 at 12:42 PM
I know. I do. And I’m trying. I really am. Some days it’s really hard to.
February 13, 2013 at 12:52 PM
I understand. It’s definitely not easy. Knowing and understanding is the first step. “HUG”